I love our tradition of going out to find our Christmas tree. We get all wrapped up in winter coats, hats, gloves and scarves before going out to find ‘the one’. I love bringing the tree home, putting it up, getting the boxes of decorations down from the loft and decorating it as I play Christmas music and enjoy a glass of wine.
We decorate our Christmas trees with decorations we’ve collected and made over the years. The decorations are meaningful to us because of the memories they evoke.
The star we made out of a coat hanger and silver foil for our first Christmas tree reminds us of our first home. The bear reminds us of a family holiday. The decorations our children made remind us of their childhood years.
Family traditions can help create a sense of connectedness between people and through time. They change and evolve as our circumstances change and people come and go but through them we have a link from the past, to the present, to the future. One generation to the next providing a sense of continuity.
When I was having cancer treatment, I couldn’t do many of the things I used to do in the Advent season leading up to Christmas but I found some of our family traditions over the festive season anchored me. Even though our lives had been completely changed that year and our lives were far from normal our traditions gave us a semblance of normality.
During my treatment my husband started collecting Lego from the 1970s and 1980s to make trains, then soldering circuit boards and programming them on his 1980s computer so he could run trains under the Christmas tree. A new tradition!
You may have your own traditions during the Christmas season and other times of the year that you have found helpful.
I wish you well during this festive season and hope you experience some of the hope, joy and peace the story of Christmas brings but as we all know it can be a difficult time for many reasons. Please look out for others. Show them you care. If you’re struggling remember many people care, reach out for help from a family member or friend, or people in your community or neighbourhood. If you’re alone or feeling lonely check out Sarah Millican‘s invitation to use the hashtag #joinin on Twitter to chat and connect with others on Christmas Day.
You can find a list of organisations with helplines that are open and offer support in the U.K. over Christmas from ITVs This Morning and for those who specifically need cancer support I’ve noticed Macmillan Cancer Support‘s helpline is also open.